I Just Jurn 24 and I'm still Single

I just turned 24 this month, and guess what?

I'm still single.

Being single has been my persona for a long time, because people "think" I've been single for almost a decade. And sometimes I enjoy to jokes about it, LOL. I've been someone who you could always ask, if your friend looking for someone to date. And many people tried to match make me with someone, like this:

"Aidya you still single right? I have a friend and he is looking for a girlfriend? I promise he is awesome? Bla bla bla"

And not only that, I get a tons of questions like this from people or even worst (strangers)

Why the hell on earth that you still single? How could someone like you still single? I bet you are so picky! Your standard are to high right? Do you even still like men? You need to date now! otherwise you will never getting married! There must be something wrong with you! Ate this age, you literally just need to date anyone who like you :(

Dude, you need to calm the down! And it is also not your business to judge my dating life. I bet that was also happened to women in their 24 of age out there who haven't find their love yet. Especially when you live in Indonesia. People or parents pressure you to get married before you turn 30 or even 27 or 24 , I don't know anymore.

I know, crazy right? The social pressure is real !!!

I am very aware that I am 24 now. But age to e is just a number, you know. There are no universal timeline for everyone. Because people went through and want different things in this live. Age has nothing to do with when you should meet your soulmate. There is no "to late" for everything !!! And since I'm a moslem I believe that Allah has promised us our soulmate as long as we want to earn it and always try to be a better person.

And before you judge me or anyone, there must be reason why this "happened" to us :

Don't get me wrong, I want love and I've been in love with someone before. I had a first great puppy love or know as "cinta monyet" in Indonesia, I've been in a toxic relationship, I've been broken hearted, I've been ghosted (php) and I've cried for someone I had never even date, I had many crushes for someone and I've went on a few dates and date actual people!!

And just because you NEVER SAW IT ON MY INSTAGRAM doesn't mean I never date anyone. I am just a very private person and I don't always share it to the world, especially when we just been going for a date 2 times, text a few weeks, or just started dating.

And you know what ? There are plenty of things that we as YOUNG WOMEN to concern about ! We need to focus on our goal instead just focusing on being someone's women or wife and finding our prince. Women need to be independent and happy and successful too. I am thankful that my parent is very supportive and never pressured me

"BE THE CEO YOUR PARENTS ALWAYS WANTED YOU TO MARRY"

As for me, i have so many goals right now. I want to achieve so many things in live, i'm working now to pay my bills, i'm getting my degree, i do what i'm passionate about (Tae kwon do, Makeup, and Blogging). I want to travel more and I want to be a better person and I'm preparing my self to build a family and become a good mother someday. That's what I'm focusing, right now.

Don't get me wrong, i want to date. But at this point I only want it if i can see that i can grow old and marry this person. I want to be be someone who I share a great connection, who want to work together, share same core value and make me a better person. If I'm feeling I'm getting drag to place that not closer to my goal, then I'm better being on my own.

I just don't want to waste my time

And for being Picky, trust me girl, that is nothing wrong about it. You need to set some standards and boundaries on how someone should treat you, not only in dating but in general.

For example, you want to date someone who is polite, kind to everyone even a waitress, who is smart, who is funny, who accepts you for who you are, who didn't lie or cheat, who proud to have you, who didn't play a games, who is matured or happy. So you don't tolerate someone one who didn't have this value and but you can also accept his flaw that doesn't not on your main list.

As for physical appearance, or material, job, education you can also make this as your standard. You are the one who make the rule. But for me I really want to focus on his character, value, his behavior and our connection. Which is hard to find , for me. As for the other things, I can compromised.

And I believe when you meet THE ONE you will know!!! You will feel in your heart, it's feel make sense in your mind, your friends and family being supportive about it. Trust your heart and gut and don't settle for less just because you are pressure with age.

I hope great things come in your life soon for you single women out there. Mean while focus on being happy, being a better person and don't forget to always spread kindness to everyone

Love Aidya